Chapter 586 Let the past go, let the beginning begin

   “Also, what if this child is a child of society? Do you need to raise and teach your child from a social perspective, and if this child is of the world, will you raise and educate your child from a world perspective?”

   In Ning Youguang’s opinion, Xia Yan’s thinking and cognition are really too common.

   is common, but it does not mean that it is completely normal and reasonable.

  For example, in society, we will find that many parents, whether they are high or low cognitive level, when educating their children, will think “the child is mine, listen to me!”

  The same is true of raising children, the children are mine, and everything must follow my will.

   Regarding children, what does it mean to listen to parents in everything?

   means – “I control you very successfully.”

   But in fact, many parents with such thinking hope that their children can surpass themselves in the future.

   is based on such a vision.

   High-level cognitive parents have this kind of thinking, and the probability of educating their children will be much lower in fault tolerance.

  Because they give children a lot of correct direction guidance based on their own knowledge and vision, so that children can reach a good level in the future.

However, many low-level cognitive parents, such as workshop workers in factories, or parents with low knowledge such as migrant workers, also feel that “the child is mine, listen to me” when educating their children. Problem!

   In fact, from the perspective of the law of social development, no matter what the cognitive level of the parents is.

   With a high probability, the next generation of each generation is smarter than the previous generation, and the children of each generation are better than their parents.

   Parents who expect their children to listen to themselves will eventually teach a copy of themselves.

   What can they copy?

   It depends on the quality of the parents themselves.

   I want my children to live like me in the future, so education and guidance are not a problem.

The problem with    is that parents are afraid that they will educate their children by copying, and finally the children will grow up.

   They said with disgust, “No, child, you are disobedient! I didn’t let you look like this! How can you look like this?!”

   They forgot that the child grows like this because he is too obedient.

   Back to Xia Yan’s question—

“If you have ‘I’, there will be pain.” Ning Youguang said to Xia Yu, “How big is your ‘I’, so much pain you have, how narrow the upper and lower limits of your life are, and the scope of the world you can accept. It’s as small as it is, so you think about how you’re going to make decisions.”

  Xia Yan remained silent.

Ning Youguang continued, “I know how painful it is to cut off ‘me’, but as much ‘me’ you can cut off, you will gain as much happiness and freedom, and you can solve many of your problems with a single thought. problems and pain.”

   “It’s too difficult.” At the other end of the video, Xia Yu rubbed her face heavily, “I’ll think about it.”

“Of course.” Ning Youguang said with a chuckle, “Getting rid of ‘ego-clinging’ is not something you can cut off immediately. It is a long process of cultivating your mind, but once you are willing to change your mind, the new world will The door will open for you.”

  —”So, give time, let the past pass, let the beginning begin.”

“Okay.” Although Xia Yu felt a heavy heart, she still completely believed in Ning Youguang, and believed that the method she gave would definitely work, “I have recorded what you just said, and I will listen carefully and think about it later. Act again.” 1314